Couples Therapy
Two people, one room, real repair.
Couples therapy at Exuvia is a structured, active process — not a place to take turns venting. We work with the patterns underneath the fights, the disconnection, and the drift. The goal isn’t a conflict-free relationship. It’s a relationship where repair actually happens.
What we work on
I use an integrative, evidence-based approach tailored to each couple's unique needs rather than relying on a single model. My work draws primarily from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), incorporating the interventions that research has shown to be most effective for strengthening relationships and creating lasting change.
Communication
Healthy communication is about more than learning what to say—it's about creating an environment where both partners feel heard, understood, and emotionally safe. Together, we identify the patterns that keep conversations stuck, reduce defensiveness and criticism, and develop practical skills for productive, respectful dialogue.
Conflict Resolution
Conflict is inevitable; unresolved conflict is not. I help couples recognize the underlying emotions and unmet needs driving recurring disagreements while teaching evidence-based strategies for managing conflict without escalation, increasing compromise, and repairing after difficult interactions.
Emotional Disconnection
Emotional distance often develops gradually through repeated experiences of hurt, loneliness, or unmet attachment needs. Using attachment-based interventions, I help partners rebuild trust, deepen emotional intimacy, and reconnect in ways that foster lasting closeness and security.
Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling provides couples with a strong foundation before marriage. We address communication, conflict management, finances, intimacy, family dynamics, shared values, expectations, and long-term goals, helping couples strengthen their relationship and proactively navigate future challenges.
Marriage Counseling
Whether you're experiencing frequent conflict, infidelity, intimacy concerns, parenting stress, or simply feeling disconnected, therapy focuses on understanding the factors contributing to relationship distress while helping you rebuild friendship, trust, emotional connection, and a shared vision for the future.
Discernment Counseling
Discernment counseling is designed for couples where one or both partners are uncertain about whether to stay in the relationship. Rather than attempting to immediately repair the marriage, this structured process helps both individuals gain clarity about the relationship, understand the patterns that brought them to this point, and make thoughtful, informed decisions about their next steps.
What sessions look like
Most couples start with a consultation call and an extended intake. From there, we meet weekly for 50–75 minute virtual sessions. Some couples also do occasional individual sessions with me as part of the couples work — always in service of the couple, and always with clear agreements about what stays confidential and what doesn’t.
The pace is honest. Change is uncomfortable before it’s freeing.
Curious whether this is the right fit?
Initial consultations are a brief, no-pressure video call to see whether we're the right fit.
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